I am a helper, a do-good-er, a person who often times cares too much even if it’s to her own detriment. So when all my do-good-ing and f*ck giving began making me sick, I needed a change. Enter this book – recommended to me by someone who is helping me be more of a self helper than a people helper. Yes folks, I’m learning to say no. The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have with People You Don’t Like Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do is a great, tongue-in-cheek read, which, if I may be frank, (I f*cking may, it is my blog after all) has a f*cking point!
The entire premise is basically organizing your priorities based on importance, financial ramifications, and whether or not it brings you joy. Nothing -extra-ordinarily new, but for someone like me who so badly wants to “save the world” I have said yes to a lot of stuff, I probably should have said no to. Stuff that kept me up to three o’clock in the morning with a hot glue gun. When I should’ve been up – because let’s face it, at 3:00 a.m., I am up a lot – writing.
This book isn’t about not giving a f*ck about stuff that’s important to you, or about being an asshole, it’s about not using up all your energy on stuff you really don’t want to do – like go to karaoke with co-workers because… you hate karaoke. It’s about learning how to say no to karaoke without hurt feelings or taking notes you’ll never refer to during a meeting – because – it’s a time suck.
In other words
Not giving a fuck means allowing yourself to say no. I don’t want to. I don’t have time. I can’t afford it. – Sarah Knight
The “afford” in this quote certainly means the monetary aspect of investing so much of your time and in many cases your own money into things. You’re bank account is a great motivator to help prioritize where you’ll spend your time and save your f*cks for that which you really want to spend your money on… Which may, or may not be karaoke. It’s also about other ways you can’t afford to give a f*ck about crap that is unimportant to you, or if you are like me; was usurping so much of my time and energy, I literally became sick.
This book – is a quick easy read – where Sarah Knight’s common sense “NotSorry” Method for “mental decluttering” helped me (or at least I’m working on) not give a f*ck about the following:
- Family drama
- Bake sales which in my mind is equal to volunteering for some mundane event I get no joy or “warm and fuzzy” feelings over. Stuff that takes up my time from doing things I love like reading books.
- Other bullsh*t!
This mental sprucing, you learn, allows you to “spend your time, energy, and money on the things that really matter.”
I literally now have a bank of f*cks I give. They are far fewer than those I had a before reading this book.
$12 well spent.