Often in life, we compare ourselves to someone, something, we try to be the person we think we should be, instead of the person we are. I’m not saying that trying to better yourself, to be kinder, to be more than what we are as a person is a bad thing. What I’m saying revolves around the superficial. Open up any beauty magazine and your bombarded with ads telling us what we should look like, what we should be wearing, and even how we should act. Sometimes it’s less superficial. Sometimes we try to be the person we think our lovers want us to be, or who are parent’s want us to be…I can’t tell you how grateful I am that I do not suffer from this.
I have my mother to thank for that.
I’ve been thinking about my mom a lot.
She’s not perfect. She recognized that. She taught me to appreciate imperfections. The most important thing my mother ever taught me wasn’t how to put my makeup on, or to cook, or the best way to get grass stains out, but of self love. She may not have always had it for herself, but she certainly taught me to cherish the person I am. To love me. She did this by loving me unconditionally. By letting me express myself-even if that included wearing her-to big clothes when I was twelve and wished so much to be grown.
By teaching me to love myself my mother made it really easy for me to love others and for other people to love me. A fact, that I am very grateful for. I’m no where near to being perfect and I like that. I measure myself against me and the ever evolving person that is who I am.
How do you measure yourself?